This week we’re looking at sabotage in the common mistakes series:
Sabotaging Your Own Programme
In the health and fitness industry there is a very poor statistic for goal achievement and people reaching their desired end result. Only 5% of people who set a goal to do with health and fitness achieve it, meaning 95% of people are failing to do so.
Since finding this out, it has fascinated me and caused me to look at why, when and how this is happening.
I began to study self-sabotage and found that there are actually emotional benefits for you to sabotage areas of your life and your health – fitness being one of them.
This started to make me realise why the statistic above might be so high, and also it says quite a bit about the state of people’s emotional health if that is the case!
You might see self-sabotage happening in many areas of your life such as:
Wishing you weighed less than you do now but never being able to get to the weight you’d like;
Losing weight and feeling better, then putting it back on again;
Chronic lower back pain that just won’t go away no matter what you do;
Drinking more alcohol than you know is good for you and feeling regret afterwards;
Seeing a health professional for an evaluation and then not seeing the programme through as
it was laid out;
Relationships that just never seem to last the course;
What Is Self-Sabotage?
Two definitions that I think are incredibly useful to contemplate are:
Self-sabotage is a form of inner conflict;
Self-sabotage is a validation of unresolved emotional wounding and/or disempowering beliefs about self.
Moving Beyond Sabotage
On the contrary, living beyond your self-sabotage is to live your life in acceptance of how things are, allowing the river of life to flow, if you will.
When there is resistance in your life to certain things, like the way you look and feel for example, they will usually persist until the emotional relationship with this wound is reconciled, made friends with and shown some acceptance.
Which parts of yourself, that you’re aware of, don’t you accept fully?
Which parts, might you guess, are you not aware of that you’re not fully accepting of?
The two questions above can help you to consider what are the emotional parts of yourself that may have been driving actions that you were possibly unaware of, the self perpetuating events that seem to knock you off track.
In this way you become more enlightened to these parts of yourself.
“Enlightenment isn’t found by imagining the light. It’s found by becoming conscious of the darkness”. Carl Jung