It’s my belief that boredom is a symptom of something much deeper going on inside of us.
Boredom can often be used as the excuse for not doing something that we know is good for us. But what if there was an alternative explanation?
The classic feedback from many people when you ask them if they have tried meditating before is, “yes I’ve tried, it’s not for me, I find it too boring.”
Boredom comes about, as a symptom, when we experience anxiety about being in our own presence. When we are in our own presence we are much more connected to our emotional state and fears and concerns, as well as our contentment and our peace.
If we don’t know how to manage our fear and anxieties or they are overwhelming to us, we use distractions because we want to block out the feelings we label as negative and don’t know how to deal with.
- Excessively exercising
- Generally making ourselves busy
- Busy brain while trying to meditate
- Watching TV while checking your phone/the internet
- Creating dramas in your life
- Drinking too much alcohol
- Working excessively
So when we use the phrase “I’m bored” or “this is boring” we might really be saying, “this doesn’t distract me enough from feeling the feelings I have that I’m not keen on/know how to process.”
Said another way, it’s us trying to disconnect from ourselves.
I must also say, this is usually completely subconscious and if you’re reading this thinking nope, that’s not me, I’d ask you to consider not, if you disconnect from yourself to avoid feelings, but where? We are all doing it at various times, it’s just where, when and to what extent we do do it.
How can we stop this disconnecting?
I would say that you can do this in three ways:
1 – Begin to notice where you find yourself needing to distract yourself from being still and calm, peaceful and mindful.
2 – Avoid the fixing mentality – this could well be another distraction. Instead when you notice it, just sit with it.
3 – Go within – Become more aware of what is going on for you in that moment. What are you feeling? Anxiety? Restlessness? Overwhelm?
What other body sensations are you aware of? Sit with these things and try to avoid judging, labelling or trying to fix.
These can be great things to write up in a journal at the end of the day.
4 – Try talking with someone safe and supportive about these feelings. If you can find a loved one or even a professional who you know can spend the time to help you go even deeper, this can lead to some real inner growth.
I hope these were some interesting insights on what boredom could really mean.